Tag: love

The Wrong Ice Cream

First of all, let me just say that it is a glorious, beautiful thing to be able to eat whatever is in front of me without being all fritzy about dairy.  IT’S AWESOME!

Second of all, we were out of ice cream last week.  So since I could remedy the situation, Analie and I went to the ice cream aisle on our weekly Kroger run, and I stood there pondering the oodles of options in front of me.  It was overwhelming.  Finally, I settled on an off brand ice cream, just to see how it tasted.  They don’t sell Blue Bell at Kroger and I am not inclined to drive all the way to Carmel to get the goodness.  I know, I know, what is wrong with me.

Then I saw Butterfinger ice cream.

I love Butterfinger.  Not as much as Snickers or Reese’s, but some days you just need to eat Butterfinger.   That was one such day.

I suppose I should tell you all that Joey hates Butterfinger.  I can’t tell you how many times in the last 7 1/2 years that we have been together I have heard how nasty Butterfinger is because it gets stuck in his teeth.  As I stood there looking at the ice cream flavors, I made an Executive Decision, albeit a selfish one.  I put that Butterfinger ice cream in my cart and paid for it.

Aaaaaand then I forgot it at the store and had to go back for it.  When I brought it home, I threw it straight into the freezer and forgot about it.

Today after lunch, we decided to have ice cream for dessert.

“I got Butterfinger ice cream,” I mumbled to Joey.

“OK,” he said.  ”I only want a little.”

Then I confessed that I had been feeling SUPER guilty for buying ice cream I knew he wouldn’t love.  He looked at me like I was kind of nuts.  And he was all, Sometimes we buy the kind I like that you hate.  So sometimes we can buy the kind you like.

WHAT?  SO COOL!  Looks like I can throw that false Bad Wife guilt in the trash along with the mommy guilt over the diaper rash.

Celebrating Daddy

(photo brazenly stolen from Cheryl's Facebook album...)

There was never a doubt in my mind that Joey would make a fantastic daddy.  He’s a wonderful, supportive, sacrificial, gentle, loving husband and those are all foundations for being a great father.  Whew, could I possibly squeeze any more superlatives into this post?  It’s three sentences long and already busting at the seams!  (At the risk of sounding contrived, I’ll try to dial them down.)

I am so looking forward to celebrating Joey on Sunday.

Through the years we struggled with infertility, I never felt worse than I did on Father’s Day.  Sure, Mother’s Day was a doozy, but the horrible guilt I’d feel on Father’s Day was a hundred times worse.  Joey loves children.  Even when I went through my several year stretch where I wouldn’t hold a baby (much less look at one!), he never stayed away from the little ones.  If there was a baby around, he’d snatch it within ten minutes.

I felt like Joey could be the best daddy in the universe, and it was my fault he wouldn’t get to fill that role.  There were times when I’d ask Joey over and over again if he didn’t wish he’d married someone else so he could have children.  And every single time, he would tell me the answer was NO.  He didn’t want to be married to anyone else, even if it meant we’d never ever have a baby and he would never get to be a father.

That’s why this year, with Analie, Father’s Day is so special.

You know what?  I still feel the misplaced weight of guilt that comes with infertility almost every single day.  Maybe I always will.  But I absolutely rejoice that Joey is finally a daddy, and he’s the best possible father to our daughter.  I know that when she sees how her daddy loves her, the joy he finds in her, how he’s willing to sacrifice for her it, won’t be a stretch for her to understand the love of her heavenly Father.

There is no greater gift that a father can give.

I’m thankful I had a daddy that showed me these things.  And I am profoundly thankful that Joey can be that example for our little girl.

There is a poverty in the English language when it comes to expressing the love that fathers have for their daughters.  For this I am so grateful.

(Aaaaaand I stole this one too. Hi, Cheryl!)